Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes processing external information (what men see and hear), psychological readiness for sex, anticipation of pleasure and the body's immediate physiological reactions. How this process occurs in men and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman to know.
Where did it all start?
The onset of arousal is produced by a variety of sensory stimuli. A girl's smell, her kisses and touches, her appearance (especially when undressed) stimulate centers in the brain that transmit signals to the genitals through the genital system. nerve.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and the 4th part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sexual Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines how easily a man is aroused. . This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal".
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the phenomenon of filling the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and block the outflow of veins, due to which the penis becomes hard, enlarges (on average 3-4 times) and feels pulsation. Usually such a reaction occurs within a few seconds after sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, the erection may weaken and then strengthen - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of International Urology published a study conducted on 20 thousand men. The size of their genitals was measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, the average penis size at rest is 9. 16 cm, and when erect - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them – nocturnal (spontaneous) – occurs without sexual overtones. The remaining two types are accompanied by sexual excitement in men.
Psychophysiological (or psychological) - occurs based on stimulation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – appears when touching the penis. Because this organ has many nerve endings and the skin is extremely sensitive, even the slightest touch can cause irritation and cause blood to flow to the penis.
In addition to erection, men's heart rate gets faster, breathing becomes faster, and blood pressure increases (as in half of the female population). The scrotum becomes thicker and possibly denser, and the testicles emerge. The upper body turns reddish. A lubricating fluid is released, facilitating sperm movement through the tube.
What makes men interested?
In addition to beautiful images (naked women, often wearing lacy lingerie, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay plays a huge role. Men also need it to create the strongest possible arousal. The surest way for a girl to attract a guy is to stimulate his erogenous zones. Including:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
In most cases, foreplay begins with a kiss. A passionate kiss from a girl can cause an erection and put a guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips. In addition, he can also feel the sex of his partner and predict the upcoming lovemaking session. At this time, you can use your hand to caress the occipital area, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like when their earlobes are kissed and bitten, but you need to be careful with this, because there are those who do not like this process at all.
The lower abdomen is a great area to caress before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, it can be done not only with hands, but also with lips, hair and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear - any movement in this area is welcome and causes sexual excitement in men. You should be wary of sudden movements, guys can fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, handjob techniques - all this maximizes the partner's desire. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which you can caress with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex will get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, because this process consumes a lot of their energy. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly for all men and this should be handled with understanding.
Sexual stimulation in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you become aroused first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a little known question to most people. What does science say? She considered arousal a physiological sexual response.
Or rather its first stage. That is, a series of processes. They have no gender differences: breathing and heart rate increase, muscle tension appears, blood pressure increases, salivation increases, pupils dilate, redness and goosebumps appear, as well as nipple erectionbreast.
With sexual excitement, psychological behavior, eye contact and voice changes. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like a drug. In men, in addition to the above phenomena, there is also the phenomenon of penis erection, scrotum protruding over the pubic bone, swelling and thickening, as well as secreting pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, additional lubrication occurs, thinning or, conversely, expansion of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), erection of the clitoris, protrusion and expansion of the uterus, tensing the pubic sacral muscle and increasing the length of the vagina.
By the way, if redness of the skin is rare in men, then in women, blood rush occurs not only in the clitoris and labia, but also in the chest and back. In some women, this flushing is so noticeable that during and after orgasm, the area from the chest to the shoulders and neck may even become bright red.
Why are there so many reactions? They are associated with increased blood flow that the body carries out to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals and readiness for the second phase in the sexual response cycle - sexual intercourse. After the arousal phase there is: the plateau phase (sexual intercourse), the orgasm phase and the phase of completion of sexual responses.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is often a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of the erection is insufficient for intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is organically related to various diseases. The most common causes of this condition are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to organs and hormone levels are disrupted.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking certain medications, especially those that affect the central nervous system and a sedentary lifestyle, blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, whichis why the main reaction of sexual arousal in men does not occur - filling the corpora cavernosa with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical, but also the psychological state, which is why impotence passes from organic to mixed. You cannot delay this situation, at first it can be easily overcome. You need to see a urologist or sex therapist.
Men are sexually aroused much more often than they achieve orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women's favorite motto "we will stimulate you and will not let you" is good in moderation - you should not abuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical health but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the body to function normally. And there is practically no difference in how it is achieved - during sex or masturbation.